Me again! I was talking to a friend at a debt advice charity and I mentioned your problem. He had some extra advice to give and I made some notes from our conversation. Here goes:
He pointed out that although credit card companies are suffering too, the payments they get from their customers are not just helping them scrape through. They are still making big profits. This is why there is room to negotiate.
He suggests that you first,make a budget. All credit card companies have special departments for hardship. They are authorized to do deals to help you manage your repayments. Before you contact them the first thing you need to do is make a budget. This will demonstrate clearly to the company why you are unable to meet the repayments.
Make a list of your monthly incomings. Then make a list of your spending priorities - mortgage or rent payments, bills, food and living costs. Make totals for both incomes and your spending priorities and then subtract spending from income. The figure you are left with is your expendible income. If you are struggling to pay your credit card repayments then this figure will be quite low. This will demonstrate to the credit card company your inability to meet repayments.
Then he says you should get some advice - free advice from one of the free debt services. You should not have to pay in order to get out of debt! Speak to a counsellor at the Consumer Credit Counselling Service or the Citizens Advice Bureau. They will be able to tell you what to expect when you phone the credit card company. If you really are in over your head, they will also be able to help you with a debt management plan.
Getting advice will help you know what to expect and stay calm when talking to the credit card company. It will also demonstrate to them that you are serious and genuine about wanting to repay the debt. The CCCS and CAB are respected organisations and will be taken seriously by your credit card company.
Contact the credit card company. Tell them that you simply cannot meet the repayments and will have to declare bankruptcy if forced to make them. Make sure you have your budget to hand to give them exact figures to back up your claim. It will also be helpful to mention that you have sought advice from the CCCS, the CAB or another debt help charity.
When faced with this kind of situation the credit card company will have to respond to you. You are not whining or complaining. You are simply stating that either you can negotiate an affordable repayment plan or you will have to default on the entire debt.
It is far better for the credit card companies to get their debts repaid slowly, than to have someone default on the entire debt. At least at a slower rate of repayment they get their money back. If you default they will get nothing.
This kind of negotiation may cause your credit score to go down a bit. However it will be nothing compared to the huge black mark on your credit rating that defaulting on your debt would make.
Let us know how you get on :-)