Addiction, finances, and getting help

Annie 13th Jan 2020 2 Comments

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Addiction is a widespread problem in the UK. From alcohol to sex, shopping to food, addictive behaviour causes destruction to relationships, careers – and finances.

This is a comprehensive guide to help you recognise addictive behaviours in yourself or a loved one. We’ll show you how to address and overcome addictions, and make sure you’re not left in debt.

• The cost of addiction
• How do you know if you’ve got an addiction?
• Effects of addictive behaviour
• Addiction and mental health
• How to help a loved one with an addiction
• Types of addiction
• How addiction makes debt work
• Your addiction doesn’t rule you

 

First thing to Remember: you are not alone

Addictions are scary. They take over your life – even if it’s not your addiction. Family relationships and friendships become strained, and the financial burden deepens the risk of harm to your mental health.

But DO NOT WORRY.

You’re not alone. Hundreds of thousands of people in the UK experience addictions every year – and that means there’s plenty of help out there for you.

This guide will help you understand the cost of addiction and how you can start to seek help.

Take a deep breath. It’s going to be OK.

 

The cost of addiction

When we hear the word ‘addiction’, our minds often jump to illegal drug misuse or alcohol consumption. In reality, addictive behaviour is related to many different things, from gambling to food.

Drug misuse statistics show that almost 10% of adults have tried a drug in the last year. This doubles for the 16 – 24 age bracket to one in five people (20%). The cost of this addiction type alone is staggering: the UK economy lost £15 billion to drug misuse in 2018 alone (and a whopping £21 billion due to alcohol addiction).

However, addictive behaviour isn’t solely linked to using illegal drugs or consuming excessive amounts of alcohol. Gambling, for example, is estimated to cost the public purse up to £1.2 billion a year. Often, someone with one addiction is likely to have a related addiction, too.

For example, men who gamble are more likely to smoke and/or drink excessive alcohol. So, the cost of one addiction can’t really be analysed on its own. The whole picture makes it look bleak: very often, someone trying to kick one addiction moves onto another to replace it.

How many smokers do you know, for example, who have switched to vaping instead? The root cause of addictions is usually in the behavioural patterns – not the thing you’re addicted to.  So, without getting professional help for an addiction, you (or your loved one) risks replacing one costly addiction with another.

 

How do you know if you’ve got an addiction?

While each type of addiction has their unique quirks (which we’ll look at later), there are some common signs you’ll notice in yourself or your loved one that signals addictive behaviour.

If you notice any of these signs, don’t panic. It’s important to remember that addictions – and addictive behaviour – can be treated.

Signs to look out for

• Compulsive behaviour despite knowing the action is detrimental (such as smoking)
• Loss of interest in hobbies and favourite activities
• Secretive behaviour
• Mood swings when the subject is brought into conversation
• Obsessing about the subject when you’re not doing it (such as thinking about when you’ll get your next fix)
• Feeling depressed or withdrawn if you try to stop doing it
• Using the behaviour as a coping strategy for stress or other triggers
• Neglecting work or becoming absent altogether
• Not engaging with friends and family as much
• An acknowledgement that the behaviour dominates your life
• Willingness to take risks to achieve your addiction (such as getting fired from your job or doing something illegal)

 

Effects of addictive behaviour

The impact of addiction isn’t just taking more risks or becoming obsessed by your addiction. It has bigger effects, too.

Relationships start to suffer as the addictive activity is prioritised over social interaction. You might cancel plans all the time, or start avoiding people altogether. This social isolation can drive your addiction in a vicious cycle: without the support of family and friends, the small positive reinforcements you get from your addiction are what keep you happy.

For example, those with a shopping addiction may not leave their home for days on end. However, with access to the internet, it’s easy to have the thrill of ordering shopping online. This thrill – which feels like validation of yourself or your actions – is what makes the addiction powerful. You want it again, so you’ll buy more things.

 

Addiction and mental health

Addictive behaviour goes hand-in-hand with other mental health problems such as depression and anxiety.

It’s important to understand that they often work in a vicious cycle: sometimes, someone is depressed so they become addicted to something that gives them a temporary sense of positivity. When that feeling goes away again, they turn to their addiction once more to feel better.

Other times, addictive behaviour has a negative impact on a person’s life which causes depression. They then continue their addiction to feel that thrill or to fill the empty feeling that so often comes with depression.

The cycle is very hard to break and can lead to devastating consequences. For example, a recent study found that people with a gambling addiction are 15 times more likely to commit suicide.

If your addiction is severely affecting your mental health, seek help and advice immediately.

You can call:

• The Samaritans on 116 123 (any time of day or night)
• Your local GP for a Crisis Team referral
• Mind charity on 0300 123 3393
• Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – for men – on 0800 58 58 58
• Papyrus (for under-35s) on 0800 068 41 41

If feelings of self-harm are immediate and urgent, go to your local Accident and Emergency department straight away.

 

How to help a loved one with an addiction

Addictions affect more than one person: it takes a toll on those around them, too.

Loving someone with an addiction, whether they’re your spouse, sibling, parent, or friend, is hard. You want to take responsibility to help them overcome their addiction. It also creates a lot of friction in your relationship, too: anger and resentment can build up as the addiction starts to take priority over people.

Getting help for an addiction is very much up to the person with the addictive behaviour. However, there are things you can do to support them on their way to getting help:

1. Avoid judgmental statements when talking about the addiction. For example, instead of ‘Drugs make you a bad person’, try ‘I worry about your health if you continue to use these drugs’.
2. Gather information about where they can seek help for their addiction.
3. Offer to go with them to appointments if they need moral support.
4. Don’t enable their behaviour: if their finances are dire and you want to help, offer to pay a bill directly instead of giving them money.
5. Take time for yourself: if you burn out supporting them, you’ll suffer too!

Sometimes, all the person with the addiction wants you to do is to listen to them. Talk to them about their addiction, how they feel about it, and why they think they do it. Ask what they want to do about it, too: they may want to seek help but not know how to ask.

Addictions aren’t easy to get over: it’s a long road and it’s exhausting. If you feel you can’t help your loved one any more than you already have, remember that it’s completely OK to tell them this.

Put some distance in your relationship if you need to take time away to regroup: you’ve got to look after yourself first. It feels selfish, but you’re no use to anyone if you’re burned out, too!

 

Types of addiction

Almost anything can be an addiction. It’s the behaviour pattern of crave, fix, heightened pleasure, crash, crave that makes it an addiction. Here are the most common ones seen by GPs and addiction centres in the UK – and how to get help for them.

Smoking

In 2006, 22% of adults in the UK smoked. The smoking ban came into effect in 2007 – and had a massive impact on the number of smokers. In 2018, just over 14% of adults smoked.

We don’t often think of smoking as an addiction. We know it’s harmful to our health, but taking smoking breaks from work, lighting up on a night out, or having a coffee and cigarette for breakfast are still socially acceptable.

However, the habit doesn’t just affect your health. It’s directly linked to reduced finances, too!

The average smoker gets through ten cigarettes a day, or half a pack (the minimum pack size is 20). That’s a cost of around £4.50 per day, depending on the brand. For a daily habit, that adds up to 3.5 packs a week – a cost of £13.50. Over the course of a year, that’s £702.

How to stop smoking

The NHS offers lots of help for people who want to quit smoking. Specialist nurses can help support you through your quitting journey. They may also help you access certain prescriptions to help you stop smoking, too.

Find out how to contact your local stop smoking NHS service here.

If you’re struggling with how to quit smoking, you can also try to wean yourself off cigarettes with nicotine patches or gum. However, the support you’ll get from your local stop smoking service is likely to be the boost you need to stick to your dedication to quit.

 

Alcohol

Another socially acceptable drug, excessive alcohol consumption is a huge problem for health and social services in the UK. One in five hospital inpatients admits to harmful alcohol consumption, and one in ten rely on it every day.

It’s so easy to abuse alcohol: we live in a culture where going to the pub is a standard social event. We’ll go for a drink after a hard day’s work, drag friends on a pub crawl to celebrate birthdays, and give alcoholic gift sets at Christmas.

We joke about needing a stiff drink for courage or to cope with a stressful day. Even fashion items have made drinks like gin and Prosecco fashionable to a new generation, with mugs adorned with slogans like “There’s too much tea in my gin”. The casual approach to alcohol means it’s easy to not realise an addiction is forming.

Signs of an alcohol addiction

You might not think you’ve got an alcohol problem if you still go to work every day and don’t binge drink. We imagine alcoholics to be unable to work due to being drunk all the time, or someone who has to drink a litre of vodka every day to stop the shakes.

In fact, you may have an alcohol addiction and not realise it.

• You drink alcohol every day
• You couldn’t skip more than one day without a drink
• Drinking after work is a daily occurrence
• You’re showing signs of alcohol withdrawal
• Hangovers are more common for you than hangover-free days
• It’s common for you to drink more than your personal limit
• You regularly drink more than the recommended 14 units a week
• Alcohol is your go-to for coping with stressful situations
• You hide your drinking from others

How to overcome an alcohol addiction

Overcoming an alcohol addiction is particularly hard because it’s such a huge part of our culture in the UK. Becoming tee-total is a challenge in itself, made all the harder when we’re expected to go to social gatherings where alcohol is served.

However, it’s important to address your drinking sooner rather than later. It doesn’t just cause irreversible health problems: the financial strain of drinking is phenomenal.

Take your first steps to recovery and:

• See your local GP
• Find local community alcohol support services
• Ask friends to do alternative things when you meet (go to the cinema, go for a walk etc, instead of the pub)
• Cut down how much alcohol you have – try alternating alcohol-free beer to start with
• Contact the org helpline on 0203 553 0324
• Get in touch with Drinkaware’s Drinkline on 0300 123 1110 for help
• Contact Addaction for support
• Find an Alcoholics Anonymous to attend
• Book into a private rehab like The Priory

 

Drugs – Prescription and Illegal

Illegal drugs are what most people think of when we say the word ‘addiction’. We think of opiate use and everything that goes with it.

However, more people are addicted to prescription drugs than ever before. It’s easily done: you have an injury and the doctor prescribes very strong painkillers. These drugs are addictive – so when you’re fully healed, you still want the fix of the drug.

Whether you’re addicted to illegal narcotics, marijuana, or prescription drugs, the impact is the same. Your behaviour changes as you prioritise the substance over your relationships, career, family, and even self-care.

Drugs, like alcohol, also affect your brain chemistry. You’re more likely to suffer related mental health problems – and this is why drug-related suicides are so desperately high every year, too.

The financial implications of drug addiction is clear. Many with substance misuse problems end up neglecting other finances in their lives, such as rent or mortgage payments, to buy their drug of choice. Even if you’re not in dire financial straits, you’re burning money.

How to overcome a drug addiction

Always seek help from your GP first. If you don’t want to see your family doctor, or don’t have one, there are other services with registered doctors who can help. It’s vital that you don’t try to attempt ‘cold turkey’ quitting: you’ll need medical supervision.

You can also contact:

• The Samaritans on 116 123
• Addaction
• Turning Point
• Frank

For help accessing drug recovery services.

Drug and alcohol charity, AdFam, has a fantastic list of resources for you – and your loved ones affected by your addition – too. Click here for a list of organisations.

 

Sex

We don’t talk about sex addiction much in the UK – but it’s a growing problem. It’s not only about those who feel the need for intimacy with a lot of people – addictions to pornography affect a huge number of the population, too.

Financially, a sex addiction may seem mild – but it quickly adds up. You may choose to pay for sex – or even go on a costly ‘sex tourism’ holiday to countries in which it’s legal. Other people find their addiction to porn means they’re paying for premium website content – or spending a lot of money on webcam shows.

How to overcome a sex addiction

Sex addictions are most commonly rooted in a behavioural need for validation or gratification. This means the best approach to overcome your addiction is to seek behavioural therapies, such as cognitive behavioural therapy, to re-train your brain. Unlike quitting a substance you’re physically addicted to, sex addiction requires a deep look at the cause of your behaviour.

Try contacting these organisations for support:

• Sex Addicts Anonymous
• Sexaholics Anonymous
• Relate (If your addiction is affecting your current relationship)
• Sex Addiction Help
• The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity

Gambling

Gambling addictions have rocketed since online gambling became easy for any adult to access. While online casinos have financial limits, there’s nothing stopping you from holding accounts with several websites at a time.

This makes it easy to lose thousands of pounds in one day. The trouble with gambling, unlike other addiction types, is that you don’t always get the fix you need. The big win is what keeps you going – but in chasing that feeling of winning, you can easily lose a lot of money.

Signs you have a gambling problem

Unlike other addictions, you don’t have to need the substance or habit every single day. Problem gambling occurs when:

• You can’t stop at your set limits
• Your bank balance is low but you gamble anyway
• You feel compelled to gamble when you know it’s a bad bet
• Family and friends have highlighted how much you gamble
• You hide your gambling from others

How to overcome a gambling addiction

The good news is that there are many places to get help.

Try these resources to start with:

• Your local doctor
• Gamcare
• The National Problem Gambling Clinic
• The Gordon Moody Association
• Gambling Therapy

You can also speak to friends and family and, if you feel it necessary, ask someone to help by managing your money for you. This way, you won’t be able to spend money without explaining what it’s for – and can really help highlight to yourself how large a problem your gambling has become.

 

Shopping

A shopping addiction might seem harmless – but imagine what it’s doing to your finances.

Onoimania – the real name for it – is a strange addiction as it comes in two parts: the thrill of browsing or online shopping, and then the thrill of finding and buying something. If you’re shopping online, there’s the third peak of joy when the parcel is delivered.

Shopping addicts often try to justify their purchases by sounding thrifty. “It was 70% off”, “I got it on a two-for-one offer”, that kind of thing. However, unless you need the thing you were buying, 70% off is still 30% more than you’d planned to spend in the first place!

The financial impact of a shopping addiction is clear. People carry on spending even when they don’t have the cash for it. Store cards are a huge problem here, too: the ‘buy now, pay later’ easy credit makes it really straightforward to access ‘free’ purchases.

They’re not free: a store card has a huge rate of interest, too! So, instead of paying £10 for an item, you could end up paying back £15 for it. It’s easy to see how debts from shopping addictions rack up without you realising.

How to overcome a shopping addiction

Shopping addictions are less health-related, in that it won’t cause illness. However, it’s still rooted in a mental health disorder – so make sure you speak to your GP as the first port of call. They’ll be able to refer you for behavioural therapy to help you address the root cause of a shopping addiction.

You can also:

• Literally freeze your credit cards in water (so you can’t use them)
• Hand control of your spending to a loved one
• Recoup some losses by selling unwanted items on Ebay and similar sites
• Write down every single expenditure to see the real cost
• Pay for everything in cash only (so you see the physical money handed over)
• Ask yourself if you really need the item you’re about to buy (if not, put it back!)

 

How addiction makes debt worse

People with addictions also start to lose focus on other things in their lives – such as their job. They make take more sick days or simply stop going to work altogether. This, in turn, worsens the financial impact of addictions.

Addictions need money, too. Whether you’re gambling, paying for sex, or have a binge relationship with food, it all needs funding. This makes it very easy to fall into debt.

The impact of addictions on mental health is significant for financial reasons, too. Many people with depression and anxiety struggle to face tasks such as opening letters or paying bills. As the debts of unpaid bills mount up, the stress increases.

Not only does it mean debts build as bills go unpaid (either intentionally or forgotten about) – but it also means the addiction takes centre stage. Stress builds, they turn to their addiction, spend money on it to feel better – and increase their debts.

If your finances are affecting your mental health

If you’re struggling to keep on top of your bills or feel anxious about opening letters and managing your admin, don’t panic.

First, speak to your local GP for advice and help. They may refer you to a specialist or be able to recommend local services in your community who can help.

Next, ask a close friend or family member to help with your admin. It’s really hard to ask, but sharing the burden with them will immediately take some of the stress off. They can help you to assess what you owe and who needs to be paid.

Finally, and this is a tough one, get in touch with your credit card company, bank, and utilities providers. If you’re too anxious, ask your friend to call them on your behalf (but you’ll need to be present to authorise this on the phone).

Ask your bank and credit card company to freeze any payments for a short period of time. If they can’t or won’t do that, negotiate a reduced amount or at least freeze interest charges. This will give you some breathing space to sort out your finances.

You can call a specialist agency for help with your finances, too.

Try:

• StepChange on 0800 138 1111
• Money Advice Service on 0800 138 1677
• National Debtline on 0808 808 4000
• Your local Citizens Advice Bureau

These are all completely free services to help you overcome and manage your debts.

You can also check out our guides on debt management to help get you started.

 

Your addiction doesn’t rule you

The biggest thing to remember when coping with an addiction is that you’re bigger than it will ever be.

You’ve lived well long before your addiction took hold: you don’t NEED it to live. You can get back to that feeling of independence (instead of dependence).

It’s not going to be easy – especially when you’re recovering your finances, relationships, and wellbeing all at the same time. There are so many places to go and people who want to support you, the only thing you need to do is ask for help.

It’s worth it. You’re worth it. You’ve got this.

 

When you’re ready, check out our other sections about benefits and debt management, and how to make money, to start your financial recovery, too.